Describe your dream guy...
That is the question girls keep asking one another when they
are too young to get married, at that moment all girls act the same; she
closes her pretty eyes and starts imagining her own fairy tale …
The funny thing is, no girl ever gets bored of answering
this question, and every time you can see the girl's eyes shining while trying
to imagine how her future husband will look like or how her grown-up life will
be :)
Don't know what reminded me of those days, maybe it's that
couple of movies I've been watching lately to kill time, anyway I started to
recall how I used to imagine my grown-up life ..
When I was a child, I wanted my marriage house to include a
swimming pool (I think the main reason was that my parents always refused my suggestion
to build a swimming pool in the balcony!).
Then when I became a teenager and I was crazy about
volleyball, I wanted to marry a volleyball player and have a volleyball playing
place instead of the swimming pool at home (come-on, we are two players, we
should be able to play volleyball whenever we want to!).
Two years after joining college I decided to quit volleyball
and pay more attention to engineering (believe me, that was not an easy
decision! and engineering wasn't the main reason behind it too :) but sounds
like I was growing up..) my personality was changing step by step, learnt more
about Allah and started to have more interest in studying Islam and getting
closer to the Lord, and that's when I started to think differently of the guy I
wanted to share the rest of my life with, I remember then I wanted him to be a
good Muslim, knowledgeable about his religion and close to Allah, and wanted to
have a little room in our house where we make our prayers and keep Islamic
books. (I used to imagine him with a little black beard and a bright shining
face) the reason that made me imagine my partner this way was that I believed
that when a man gets closer to his Creator, he turns to be a kind person with good
manners and a smiling face, I believed he'd treat me like a princess as prophet
Muhammed used to treat his wives. But I didn't meet that perfect guy, maybe
they're not very common or I just didn't meet a lot of them before.
But wait a second, something was still missing, I've always
wanted to travel around the world. And finally I decided to marry that guy
who's crazy enough to travel around the world with me :D beside his good
manners of course. I don't think I'm very demanding, am I??
I know I'm growing up and sooner or later I'll say YES to
somebody, I just believe marriage is a scary step and a girl shouldn’t rush
into marrying the first guy who proposes to her unless he was her dream guy!
One problem a girl in our community may face is the people
who are always trying to convince her of saying Yes to somebody she doesn't like
enough. Well what I tell myself in these situations - and I’m writing this
because I need to read it from time to time ;) - I'm not going to listen to
those women who keep pushing me to say YES to anybody whom they think to be
good enough, simply because when I grow older, I don’t want to have their
ordinary boring life! I want to go to bed every night with a thankful and
satisfied smile on my face and the last thing I look at before closing my eyes
is the same smile on my husband’s face, put my head on his chest and tell my
night’s last prayer: “please my Lord love my husband and make him always happy
and satisfied” even after both of us lose our young face
details, our smiles will always keep our faces bright.
